Dating a druggie
In the earliest stages, most recovering addicts are trying to figure out who they are, what they want and how to be in a healthy relationship.
Beyond the first year, the longer someone has maintained their sobriety the more secure you can feel that you’re choosing a partner who is healthy and whole.
But before you put yourself in a position to fall for an addict, there are a few things you need to know: For anyone considering dating an active addict, it is important to realize that love cannot conquer addiction.
Addiction takes priority over everything – you, children, career, financial security, even one’s own freedom.
If they are in recovery, how long have they stayed sober?
Are they actively working a program of recovery (e.g., participating in self-help support meetings, counseling or an aftercare program)?
They may still be working out legal issues and trying to earn their way back into the lives of family and friends.When your own boundaries are firmly in place, you protect yourself from being taken down by your loved one’s illness.There may come a point in the relationship when you need to ask some difficult questions: Why are you attracted to this person?Someone with less than a year sober should stay focused on their recovery program, not dating.This guideline is designed to protect the addict as well as the people they might date.