Dating after breakup rules
As long as you understand it’s a rebound and a replacement drug, don’t be judgmental of yourself for moving on “too soon.”We’ve all been there.We know it’s tempting to stalk an ex on Instagram or text them after a second glass of wine, but it will only reignite old feelings and drag out your pain.And only if you won't experience an emotional hangover post-sex (like, if you're fine and willing to accept the sex for what it is: rebound sex).Know that a one-night-stand likely won’t lead to something long-term, but the age-old saying actually does have some truth to it if you're emotionally prepared for the effects.“Love is a delicious cocktail of neurohormones, so you actually go through a kind of drug withdrawal after a breakup,” explains Wendy Walsh, L.A.-based clinical psychologist and host of Mating Matters podcast.
And don’t forget about doin' you, girl: Eat well, sleep well, hit the gym, and schedule regular massages (for the touch and dopamine boost).
' If you dated someone for a year or more, you may need three to four months.
On the other hand, you might need less time if your relationship was very short. Firstly, if a relationship was ‘short,’ that doesn’t automatically mean it was less meaningful and therefore merits less time to get over it.
Paulette goes on to say that it’s important to make sure you’re not in post-breakup mode when you get with someone else, as that could be you trying to fill that hole with a new relationship.
I get that, I really do – it’s important to have time for you and decide what it is you want, but aren’t relationships about doing what’s right for us?