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All Muslims belong to a community of believers called the ummah.This community is—theoretically—united in certain beliefs and practices.It’s these repressive attitudes that have forced me to date in the dark (not literally, obviously).And while dating inconspicuously can be a thrill for a while, being forced into secrecy from key support networks isn’t smart and can lead you into some questionable trysts, as well as suffering the consequences quite alone.They either think I’m into a jihadi (our equivalent of a bad boy), that I’m already married, or frigid. I believe in sex before marriage – mainly because I believe in sex and not so much marriage.The only guys left are the ones looking to ‘save’ me from some imaginary, oppressed plight they seem to have conjured me up suffering.
Rumours circulate amongst my relatives in India that, due to being unmarried, I’m either gay or suffering a terminal illness, most likely both.
I also learnt that in my experience men prefer to chase than be chased.
The few times I have made the first move didn’t even lead to a first date, and guys never ask me out.
Ramadan is a reminder to me that a lot of Muslims like to be seen as ‘being Muslim’ and are concerned with keeping up appearances with other Muslims and non-Muslims alike.
This has led to the rise in Muslim dating apps like minder – but it’s basically brown Tinder, innit?