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If you find yourself struggling no matter how hard you try, couples counseling and couples retreats may help you get back on track. C., Sara Richmond-Walls has been writing articles since 2000.
She holds a Bachelor of Arts Degree in English from the University of Mary Washington and received her Middle Grades Language Arts teaching certification through the University of North Carolina Greensboro.
In a column Lee Dye wrote for ABC News, he cites research that Claire Kemp Dush conducted on the consistency of conflict throughout marriage.
Dye concluded that "conflict is always going to be there, in about the same intensity, over the long haul." In other words, if a couple fights before they are married, chances are great they will continue, and they will probably continue with the same conflict style.
This frequently occurs when one person’s demands for change within the relationship are met by their partner’s need to withdraw. This demand-withdrawal behavioural pattern has particular relevance for some combinations within conflict resolution styles.
Within this scenario the avoidant and volatile are most at risk as the avoidant person thinks he/she is living with an irrational person while the volatile person feels his/her partner is unloving, cold and distant.
While unhealthy conflicts contain the potential to destroy a marriage, couples can combat these forces through communication, honesty, and compromise.
A couple that chooses to marry intertwines many aspects of their lives.
Current research indicates that the way most couples start out fighting will be the way that they continue.While married couples argue about many things, what matters more is how you treat each other while you are in the conflict.There are both healthy and unhealthy conflict styles, and research shows that conflict levels stay relatively constant throughout marriage.Conflict is an inevitable component of human relationships but the critical emphasis lies not in the level of frequency, or why it occurs, but how conflict is understood and resolved.In order to achieve this we need to understand one another’s style of dealing with conflict.